Embrace the glorious mess that you are

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Embrace the glorious mess that you are

As I sit here in the quietness of the night, I am exhausted from a day of running around. Motherhood has a different pace, it is fast and at times relentless. Some days we can feel like an absolute mess and other times we feel like we have it all under control. This year though, I am going to do something I have not done since having children…I am going to embrace the glorious mess that I am.

It is ok if…

For too long that little voice in my head has been telling me to get it all done in the one day. Put the dishes away, fold the clothes, iron, clean, vacuum, the list never ends. That is the obvious thing that mothers seem to miss all the time, it never ends. So, if I am so tired that I cannot pick up all the toys before bed, that is ok. If I need to just dump the dishes in the sink and have a pile to wash at the end of the day, that is ok. When the kids go to sleep and I need to be still for an hour, that is ok. We have a duty to be kinder to ourselves and by having a more positive inner voice by saying that it is ok if…..then we are off to a good start.

Sometimes we will lose it

I know as mums there will be times we will tip over. It just comes with the territory. Have I felt bad in the past? Of course. Will I continue to feel bad everytime I lose it? Absolutely. Am I going to beat myself up about it because I feel like I should have been a better mum? Not anymore. This is something else I feel like us mothers forget, we are only human. Humans are fully feeling creatures and we all have our limits and tipping points. We have to juggle so many things during a 24 hour period, it would be crazy not to tip over. So, this year and moving forward I am going to acknowledge and embrace that I am doing the best job that I can with what I have and yes, sometimes I will lose it.

I am going to make self-care a priority no matter what

Self-care is something that quietly slips out of our hands once we become mothers. Before we know it, it isn’t even on our to do list. How and why does this happen? It happens because as mothers we find great joy in a happy and healthy household even if it is at our expense. Yes I said it…even if it is at our expense. Something that I have come to quickly realise in sometimes life’s brutal ways is that if I do not take care of myself, then everything else also suffers. So here is a promise I need all mothers to make, is that we try to take care of ourselves from here on. Ask for help if you need it, Sit down for that cup of tea, have that piece of chocolate, call that friend for a chat. You just might find that that is all you need to recentre and recalibrate, which is so important.

Motherhood is fast and at times unforgiving. We are tired, we lack sleep and some days seem to blur into the next. Know you are doing a good job. No one is ever perfect and from here in love yourself and embrace the glorious mess that you are.

Guest post courtesy of Helen from Little Kid Nation 


Helen Sarlamis -


Helen is a teacher by trade but is currently focusing on mum life and running her online childrens business Little Kid Nation. She is passionate about all things mum and mum life and is keen on sharing her experiences through blogging. Her story on her journey through depression was featured in Kidspot She is a big believer in love, kindness and helping others.